Before you start getting angry, hear me out. A majority of people think that because you’re a Christian that you cannot support the LGBTQ community and speaking as a Christian, I say that is 100% false! There are those who, in the Christian sect do support the LGBTQ community and there are many different kinds of support. There’s physical support where you can join in the pride parades and other events… And then there’s emotional support where you’re just there to listen and be a shoulder to cry on if need be. This is how I have chosen to be supportive. This has recently become a passion of mine because I have a very close friend who is a transgender individual. I also have many other bisexual or lesbian friends and I love them all the same.
Now, let me say first that I was not so accepting of my friends decision. In fact, they stopped talking to me and even tried suicide. Once I heard of the news that they had tried to commit suicide, I cried myself to sleep that night… Partially out of guilt for not being accepting and partially out of sadness that my friend had sunk so low that they had tried to end their own life. It took one suicide attempt for me to change the way I saw things.
For those of you who are confused about what transgender means, I’ll define it for you…
Transgender: denoting or relating to a person whose self identity does not conform unambiguously to conventional notions of male or female gender.
In other words, it is a person who is so uncomfortable as the gender that they were born as, that they change genders.
Now, my friend used to go to church but has recently stopped because of so many judgements. That and I imagine that being the gay/ transgender kid at church is very difficult and depressing. No one should ever have to be judged that way!
I found quite a few quotes about being judged and here they are…
Matthew 7:1 says, “Do not judge, or you too will be judged”.
Bob Marley said, “Who are you to judge the life I live? I know I’m not perfect - I don’t live to be - but before you go pointing fingers, make sure your hands are clean”.
Dietrich Bonhoeffer: “Judging others makes us blind, whereas love is illuminating. By judging others, we blind ourselves to our own evil and to the grace which others are just as entitled to as we are”.
Leo Tolstoy: “It’s not given to people to judge what’s right or wrong. People have eternally been mistaken and will be mistaken and in nothing more than in what they consider right and wrong”.
Richelle E. Goodrich: while you judge me by my outward appearance, I am silently doing the same to you, even though there’s a 90% chance that in both cases our assumptions are wrong.
Though the bible says that God detests women who wear men’s clothing and men who wear women’s clothing, as humans, it is not our right to judge nor is it our job! Only God can judge us. He knows what is truly in our hearts and what we desire. He knew us before we were even thought of. So please! Be kind to others and walk a mile in their shoes before you decided to judge them. You could save a life just by being that one person who’s supportive and accepting.